After finishing with the I AM List Worksheet, I like using some Dear Abby articles to allow students to practice understanding how Self-image words can lead to feelings and actions. Dear Abby has a large selection of items that can be useful. One of my favorite letters is about how “a daughter acts like a winner, but feels like a loser”. This article can be found at the following link: http://www.appeal-democrat.com/living/dear-abby-daughter-acts-like-winner-feels-like-loser/article_5ebcc798-8970-11e3-9d7d-001a4bcf6878.html
This letter personifies the importance of an I AM List. We all have those moments which prompt negative self-talk, and we begin to believe the words we think and speak about ourselves. This is the moment when you need to remind yourself of that long list of words you chose to define yourself when you were not in the midst of an emotional weakness. Those self-chosen words become descriptive sentences of your habits and actions, thus they become the representation of the character people witness on a daily basis (but you may get a whole different view). That list is a present reminder that you are a work in progress, aware of the negative and the positive and motivated to improvement both.
We have covered Goals vs. Good Intentions, Personality Styles and Self-Image in blog posts so far. Our next blog posts are going to discuss Decision Making Processes. One of the hardest lessons I taught my students was an effective way to tell me they disagreed with me, and why respectfully. All too often students just want to go home and complain. I would teach my students that for the rest of their lives they were going to have to talk with people in authority positions – they needed to learn to respectfully disagree and provide better information to support their reasoning in a disagreement. By doing this it becomes possible for a dialogue to occur and it opens up potential for a more positive decision making process. So often students think they can only argue their point. What we are going to show is a method where an individual can express themselves in negative situations and not become disagreeable. When these lessons are learned, it tends to give a person more confidence and improves their self-esteem. It helps them to establish boundaries and get better control of their life.